thunderclapstorm said: while you are technically right, the truth is your anger is blinding you from the fact that your dress will garner attention. A more powerful man than you can take what he wants, its wisdom to not advertise your wares.
But don’t you see the problem with that? Instead of spreading information about how women should dress more modestly in order to ward off an attack by a man should we not be advertising to men about how they need to learn to be more responsible for their actions?
Why put the bandaid of dressing modestly on the problem instead of attacking the problem of mens self control itself?
Just something that’s been bothering me lately…for the past couple days I’ve been seeing these posts pop up on my facebook regarding female modesty with captions like “modest is hottest” or “who says your bikini has to be itsy bitsy?” Then when I click on the articles for further reading they all discuss reasons why women should be wearing modest clothing or bathing suits. One of the reasons that is given every single fucking time has something to do with men being visual creatures and why take the chance of giving him something to fascinate about or it being much easier for men to stay pure and keep women pure when they aren’t standing in front of a scantily clad woman.
I mean, I’m sorry but has anyone ever thought of the idea that maybe men are the problem here? Why should a woman have to dress a certain way to make a man’s life easier. Should it not be the responsibility of the man to be in control of his own thoughts and actions?
Articles like these are systematically reinforcing the idea that this behaviour is completely normal and natural and that there is nothing wrong with men acting this way. But no, excuse me, it’s the man’s own damn fault if he cannot control his thoughts or actions, not mine or the fault of what I am wearing. Women were not put on this Earth for the sole purpose of responding to the whims of men and make their lives easier. Instead of asking me to change how I dress men need to grow a pair and take responsibility for their own actions instead of blaming them on the clothes that I choose to wear.
Because when it gets right down to it, a bikini or a form fitting dress that I choose to wear are not going to be responsible for a mans sick thoughts or actions towards me, those are on him, not me.
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